Posted by Nancy Kerns at 11:26AM – Comments: (19)
August 16, 2010
Knowing that I’m in and out of my local shelter, a friend of my husband asked me to keep my eyes peeled for a “cute little dog for a cute little girl” – his five-year-old daughter. I spotted a great candidate, and brought her home to foster her until I could evaluate whether she would be appropriate for a family with young children.
I know that any dog I bring home from the shelter is going to live with me until I find him or her a perfect home. I knew it wouldn’t take long to find this darling girl a home, even if she didn’t work out for the family who asked me to look. In addition to being smart and confident, she is affectionate and snuggly. I gave the family my evaluation – that she would make a great little family dog – and they agreed to take her. But the custody change would take place in a couple of weeks, so she could be spayed and recover from the surgery, and so they could take a week-long vacation.
But oh my! How difficult it was to actually hand her over to her new family! I’ve fostered about five times now, and I’ve always been happy to see a dog go to a terrific home. But somehow, this little pup pulled my heartstrings like no other pup has so far. We really bonded, and I adored her. I spent almost two hours at the family’s home, going over all the things the puppy knew – the things I had taught her! – and making sure they had everything she needed to be safe and comfortable. Then I had to practically run out the door and drive quickly away so they wouldn’t see me burst into tears! I cried for an hour after leaving her, stopped long enough to have a nice phone conversation with the dad about how things went after I left, and then cried on and off again for the next two days. I miss that pup!
Happily, her new family seems to love her as much as I did. The little girl named her Belle, after her favorite Disney heroine, and Belle sleeps on the little girl’s bed. But I still don’t think I can foster again for a long time.
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Posted by: FloridaPat | August 17, 2010 4:58 PM
Please remember that when you refuse to foster, a dog is probably going to be killed in the shelter because there is no place for him or her to go. A little emotional upset is worth saving a life. Try not to think of your own feelings – think of all those dogs who will die because there is nobody willing to foster them. Take a look at www.Petfinder.com and scan the photos of dogs in shelters in your town. Would you like them to be killed because of a little personal discomfort? Fostering helps one to grow and the rewards far outweigh the pain. My 648th foster dog just left yesterday to go to a forever home and a little piece of my heart left with him. But another one is coming to my home tomorrow and he would have been killed at the shelter if I did not open my home to him. Make a difference. Foster a dog.
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Posted by: EILEEN K | August 17, 2010 11:03 AM
I think that in the rescue world, it shouldn’t be a case of “Do as much as you can,” but rather “Do what you do best!” With the enormous need that exists, there’s room for everyone and everyone’s talents.
Some of us are fabulous at fostering, training and working with “issues” dogs, while others have that special touch that’s needed to nurse the sick and and injured ones back to health; still others will drive hundreds of miles to transport dogs to safety, and some are geniuses with that necessary evil, paperwork. The folks with the “people person” gene are terrific at talking to potential adopters, networking and organizing fundraisers, doing pre-adoption home visits to make sure that the dogs go to the right families. Some of us go into schools and educate children on pet care and overpopulation issues, thereby stemming the tide (we hope!) of backyard breeding and animal abuse.
And yes, without the adopters, all of this would be in vain
There are so many ways to help, so let’s give everyone credit for what THEY do best … and work together to keep the ever-growing no-kill/rescue movement going full speed ahead!
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Posted by: harbormaster | August 17, 2010 11:02 AM
I am fostering for the first time. She was only 3 months old when I got her. I have trained her and had her spayed so she is ready for her forever home. All of the posts I read on this blog will help me when the time comes for her to go. I am very attached to her and love her to bits. One person said that she will take the heartbreak knowing that a dog was saved. Someone mentioned the “rescuers poem”. I would love to read it. I am sure I will cry a thousand tears but she is worth it.
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Posted by: ROSEMARY M | August 17, 2010 9:58 AM
we have adopted rescue dogs and cannot thank the foster parents enough for their love and care during that transitional time! we look forward to being able to repay the foster parents by becoming foster parents ourselves, knowing there will be both joy and heartache for us. thanks to all the rescuers and foster parents out there!
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Posted by: gsprescuer | August 17, 2010 8:25 AM
Becky B, I was in no way discounting the value of an adopter. I was pointing out that publicizing a blog about how fostering “breaks your heart” will not help to further the rescue cause. Quite the opposite. We desperately need foster homes, for every breed and mix. Dogs are being euthanized at an alarming rate across the U.S. Without adopters, my fosters would not have a place to go, and I would not have room to accommodate the others that need me.
I wasn’t the best foster home when I first started. I kept my first foster (although he was a senior with some issues, so he was not the most adoptable of dogs), but over time, I got better at saying goodbye. I relished in the joy of the dog with his/her new family, and the love that family had for their new dog. It gets easier with time.
My objection was the rationale for NOT fostering because it is difficult to say goodbye. A broken heart? I’ll take a broken heart over sending a dog to his/her forever family ANY day vs. a broken heart over losing a highly deserving and adoptable dog to euthanasia, simply because there aren’t enough people who put the needs of the dog over their own needs and emotions.